This Sunday, people near and far will be spending time with or thinking of their Mothers. On a personal note, I just returned home from visiting my mother in Vermont. In the 96th year of her life, I could not be lulled into complacency or fooled by the seeming ordinary passing of the few short days we spent together.

 Immersed in heightened awareness of this precious opportunity to be with my mom, I was struck by her fading engagement with this world.  Mom’s inability to hear diminished the quality of  conversation as well as the overcompensation of the TV volume turned up extra loud. The lack of sound versus extreme sound created barriers to communication that seemed strangely ironic.

 Oh, the tender ache of Love’s domain.  The uncommon depth that encompasses relationships intertwined in the unfolding mystery of our lives. My mind naturally gravitates towards sweet imaginings of the ideal, yet the complexity of life, of being human and of loving imperfectly demands so much more of us.

 Regardless, being in the presence of my mom held an unspoken preciousness. Beyond the world of sound, caring gestures filled in the void. Understated actions that signaled a deep down love sealed in the bonds of mutual affection.

 The bittersweet passage of time magnifies the fragility of our earthly lives and our perceived losses. Besides those who will be celebrating the joys of motherhood, my thoughts are with cherished friends who have lost their mom’s, and of all mothers who suffer from illness, the isolation of loneliness, or dementia.  

 May we recognize the ageless manifestation of our Mother’s Love in the voices, hands and hearts of those who show up for us. For a Mother’s love is unending and is revealed in the most unexpected and surprising ways.

Blessings to all the dear sweet women and men who birth Love in our world.

FotoFlexer_Photo ~liz Sorensen Wessel

 phot0 by ~liz

6 responses to “Days 134 -135: The Soft Grace of Your Smile”

  1. erie chapman Avatar
    erie chapman

    Thank you for this describing your mom in a way that is universal, Liz. Thank you also for the image of dogwood and this wonderful evocation of Mothers Day.

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  2. Woody Wessel Avatar
    Woody Wessel

    Sweet.

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  3. sirbyrn21@sbcglobal.net Avatar
    sirbyrn21@sbcglobal.net

    Beautiful Liz, 96 years! You are soooo lucky. Someone asked on FB, “whats the best advice your Mother ever gave you”? Mine was, “no regrets – we did the best we could”. I’m forever greatful of those wise words.

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  4. Maureen McDermott Avatar
    Maureen McDermott

    Such an honest and revealing reflection of the treasured visit you shared with your much loved, Mom, Liz. Thank you. How blessed we are to have the opportunity to touch, to caress, to be in the presence of those we love. For us who give thanks to our Mums, whose lives are now caught in the Eternal Mothering of God, we continue to rejoice in the reality that ‘love never ends’. The love, generosity, commitment and faith of my Mum continues to inspire me. May all those who mother us be blessed each and every day.

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  5. marily Avatar
    marily

    Wow! what a nice time again Liz, just being in the presence of the person we love suffices… in my mom’s case, I find that her priorities have changed. She used to collect dolls, now she loves to give away her cherished treasures.
    And the way my older daughter responds to her, have touched me deeply. When our eyes meet we exchange a little twinkle, and the smile between us… only we could understand. She knows things could be different anytime… my daughter learned to appreciate everything her grandma does for her, even if she has a particular taste in the styles of clothes she wears… whatever grandma gives her, she would care to wear not only once or twice but a lot of times. What a wonder it is to have a mother and be one too.
    Thank you Father for all the mothers in the world, especially my own, who’s love moves on and on.. to me and to my children and my children’s children.

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  6. candace nagle Avatar
    candace nagle

    Thank you, Liz, for sharing about your mom. This mother’s day I spent with my step mother and my daughter. The preciousness of their presence is the truest gift in my life. We are blessed with the love we have for each other….so blessed.

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