“I think the most important question facing humanity is ‘Is the universe a friendly place?’ This is the first and most basic question all people must answer for themselves.” -Albert Einstein

Sunrise from international space station - doug wheelockNote: W/E Essay by Guest Contributor Candace Nagle

Albert Einstein’s suggested inquiry implies much about our personal relationship to life and to God.  It is an invitation to move beyond our monkey brain, to create a miraculous and loving relationship with life regardless of uncertain and ever-changing terrain.

 I don’t know about you, but for me, the benevolent status of the cosmos consistently vacillates. It can be influenced by everything from how much sugar I eat and what crazy adventures my adult children are planning, to economic hardships and the kink in my back.   Being a Happy Camper is not an easy job.  On a continuum that stretches from sinkhole to smiley face, from Eeyore to Tigger, there is a lot of territory, which we all get to know intimately.

 Recently, along this path of living with The Question, I found myself loitering in a dark corner of my soul and falling prey to some serious unfriendliness.  Once again, The Fates had seemingly conspired to confound my thinking and I was experiencing a prolonged bout of living in the dark with my wrathful confusions. 

 But Einstein also said,“God does not play dice with the Universe.”  Nor does he do so with the human soul.  Thankfully.  So, eventually The Graces arrived, whispering encouragement and providing friendly companions.  With the help of kindred spirits, I dared to stick my head up out of the sinkhole and peer around a bit.  Timing can be everything.  When I finally took a good look around, here are a few of the gems that restored my faith in the sanity of an unequivocal YES:

 In one afternoon, I was called ‘sweetie’, ‘hon’, and ‘darlin’ by a variety of kind strangers.  AND I found a rhinestone heart trinket in the thrift shop.  I felt loved.

 The same day, I recalled a squirrel I met in the park.  She was prancing along happily without a tail.  Just like Erie’s squirrel of his last reflection, she stopped to chat with/at me for a spell.  In our conversation, I found out she didn’t know her tail was missing and refused to give it much credence.  She went her merry way balancing along a fence like a professional gymnast.  She had NO IDEA she was sporting a glaring deficit.

 My friend, Pete, recently widowed, is currently traveling around the country in his big red truck.  My inbox is aglow with a steady flow of his images of hay fields and sunrises…visions from his friendly universe.

 Another friend, a mother of two small boys, has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. One of her responses to her illness has been to create a “YES” Wall.  She is decorating a wall in her home with all of the things that bring her happiness. 

 Then, while looking through my old books, I found one written by my friend, Lou.  Lou was a photojournalist who had witnessed the soul of the world; the beauty and the horror.  During WWII, he had flown on bombing missions over Japan.  After the war he went to the bombsites and saw that the targets had been civilian populations.  But, in spite of that, and many other things he had seen and experienced, he still believed in the goodness of humanity.  “In spite of it all…Yes!”, he had said.

In his last year, struggling with cancer, Lou continued to create and write.  On the eve of his death, while lying in a hospital bed, floating in and out of consciousness, he had a visit from his publisher who came to tell him that his book was at the press.  Lou opened his eyes one more time, smiled, and raised his clasped hands together above his head in victory. 

So, here is the bottom line on the universe for today:

As Lou also said, “Can’t argue with a sunrise!”.  Nor can you argue with a crazy squirrel, a devoted mother, and a wise man.  At least I can’t.  Not now.  I would rather use my time here to create a ‘Yes Wall’.

-Candace Nagle

Note: above photo is a sunrise from international space station – Doug Wheelock

4 responses to “Days 216-217 “In Spite of It All….YES!””

  1. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    Candace, it is my joy to call you friend. Thank you for sharing your heartfelt experience and a bit of the lives of your friends. I appreciate your resounding ‘Yes’ in the face of adversity and I love this idea of a ‘Yes’ wall.
    Tonight I am reading a friend’s manuscript (by Fr. Jim Farris) of a new book just completed. I wish to share with you this excerpt in which Fr. Jim speaks of Grace in our lives. I thought of you.
    “George Bernanos was a French citizen, and a soldier of the First World War. He was also an ardent Catholic, and wrote the novel, The Diary of a Country Priest, which was published in 1936. The final lines of the novel are very moving. The young priest, with a troubling parish assignment, is dying in the home of a friend from his seminary days. He asks his friend to find a priest to give him the final sacraments of the Church, but the priest is late in arriving – not in time for the young priest’s death. The young priest looks at his friend, before he passes into death, and says, “Does it matter? Grace is everywhere.”
    “Buddhists would describe such stability by the word “equanimity.” Saint Paul wrote about this attitude in Philippians 4:11, “I have learned to be content with every situation.” Such “contentment” is not simply an adjustment to problems – finding peace despite our troubles. Rather, it is searching for the understanding that everything fits into our lives – the troubles and the joys all contributing to something powerful and compelling in our own stories.”
    Quote used with permission from Fr. Jim Farris.

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  2. Julie Laverdiere Avatar

    This speaks volumes to me. I have 2 friends who have been diagnosed with breast CA. It hits hard, very close to home. But when life gives you this, you can say why me, how terrible, but simply yes. Grace is everywhere, when we can stand motionless!
    Thank you Candace

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  3. erie chapman Avatar
    erie chapman

    “The Fates had seemingly conspired to confound my thinking and I was experiencing a prolonged bout of living in the dark with my wrathful confusions.” How eloquent you are, Candace. Thank you for sharing from your heart – both the dark places and the light.

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  4. Stephanie Avatar
    Stephanie

    Thank you, each of you, for your ability to seek the positive. I, too, love the idea of a “Yes” wall!

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