White series infra tree 4 - erie chapmanThe privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are. 

–C. G. Jung

   Good art always poses questions. Answers are better left to the viewer. In this photograph mystery & beauty matter more than identity or location. To push for the latter devalues the former. 

   After I retired as President of Nashville's Baptist Hospital System a mid-level executive said to me, "I guess you're a has-been now."

   "I'd rather be a has-been than a never was," I replied, pleased that I thought of a snappy rejoinder.

   There is something off-putting about either choice. "Has-been" implies meaningful life is over. "Never was" passes judgment on someone who may only appear to have lived a life of lesser deeds.   

   The dichotomy is fake. The most "successful" among us may live lives of accomplishment beyond the conclusion of a given career. Those who seem to be "Never wases" instead "always were," especially if they have been loving caregivers.

   In any case, our worth does not depend upon our job. 

   It is very important to use our God-given potential to do what we can for others. Our lives give us the power to do so much & it is always tragic when opportunities are squandered through fear of commitment. Still, it is important to celebrate lives of quiet elegance among those who keep their circle small.

   Now living in a smaller circle I photograph every day. With more time to live that passion I no longer apologize that it is just an avocation. For me, photography is as much of a career as practicing law or running hospitals. Yet, charity remains paramount.

   Who is to say whether your life has been successful? You, of course. Maybe your answer is the only one that matters. 

   Live love, not fear & you will always succeed.

-Erie Chapman

Photograph "White Series #4" copyright erie chapman 2014

10 responses to “Days 284-288 – Has Been or Never Was?”

  1. Paul Paryski Avatar
    Paul Paryski

    Again Chip you echo my deepest thoughts. Thanks, Paul

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  2. Teresa Reynolds Avatar
    Teresa Reynolds

    The line that jumps out at me is “opportunities are squandered through fear of commitment”. This is such an important reminder. When we hold back, Providence may possibly withhold some of the rewards that come with throwing everything you have into the task/relationship at hand. You are such a strong example of the purest commitment. This photography, it’s otherworldly suggestion, is strength for that same journey.

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  3. Terry Avatar
    Terry

    Another well written, thoughtful piece by my cousin Chip! Certainly small deeds can speak volumes–an impromptu hello to someone new you pass during your daily rounds; lending a hand to an older person reaching for an item high on a shelf at the grocery store; being grateful for your God-given gifts ranging from “a pleasant disposition” to “inventing new medical procedures to lessen human suffering”. All use of personal gifts is to be valued and encouraged! I’m glad I read this posting.

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  4. sbeng@att.net Avatar
    sbeng@att.net

    Erie: thank you for your words of encouragement to loving caregivers who are “never wases”instead “always were”. The commitment to care for others brings reward not externally but “deep within”.

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  5. ~liz Avatar
    ~liz

    “mystery & beauty matter more than identity or location.” I love this idea…for it takes me towards a deeper truth. Beyond identification with our persona lies mystery. Maybe we don’t always need answers, but rather appreciation. This meditation becomes more beautiful as I take the time to allow its meaning to sink in. “To become who you truly are”…

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  6. erie Avatar
    erie

    Thank you, Paul. So lovely to have re-gained contact after more than half a century.

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  7. erie Avatar
    erie

    Thank you so much, Terry! You are a man who brings so much kindness into the world.

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  8. erie Avatar
    erie

    Thank you, Teresa. Thank you for appreciating this message and for recognizing “otherworldly suggestions” in the photograph.

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  9. erie Avatar
    erie

    Thank you, Suan. “Deep within” is God’s home.

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  10. erie Avatar
    erie

    Thank you, LIz. You appreciate the power of mystery so well and honor the way it needs to be honored. Indeed, you have already become “who you truly are” and I appreciate you offering this quote.

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