Mom 105 If she were a flower, she would be a gardenia. If a piano concerto, Rachmaninoff’s 2nd.

   Were she a bird, she would be among the rarest: an Indigo Bunting. If a soap, sandlewood. As a mother, she is one word: grace.

   On August 21, as the total eclipse cuts America on the bias, my grace-filled mother turns 105. Molly Chapman had to live more than a century to experience this astronomical magic. At the rate she is going she will make the next eclipse in 2024.

   But, "light" has been blocked many times during mom's life. She was born in 1912, the year the Titanic sank (We like to call her "The Unsinkable Molly.")

    She has witnessed the sun's emergence from other moonless nights. On a November day in 1918, in World War I's wake, six-year-old Molly watched the sun glint off the bayonets of returning American soldiers parading through her home town of Elyria, Ohio. 

   In 1920 mom recalls Miss Smythe lighting up the same town with her new electric auto. "Through the Mom age 11cars big glass windows you could see a daisy smiling from a built-in vase on the dashboard," she recalled.   

   One night in 1930 she descended dark steps to knock on the door of an actual Speakeasy. It was owned by gangster "Umbrella Mike" Boyle. She was an eighteen-year-old freshman at Northwestern University. Herbert Hoover was President.

   The Depression eclipsed 1930's America. But, her father's wealth lit a safe path for young Molly. Through those days she rode in a 16 cylinder Lincoln. Live-in maids Mom fircooked dinner & cleaned. 

   In 1943, during the Hitler-birthed nightmare of World War II, mom birthed me. "Nothing is more important than family," this ultimate caregiver says. Her sixty year marriage, four children, four grandchildren & nine great grandchildren suggest that. Her enduring love proves it.    Mom ann chip 1943

   It is age itself that mom has transcended. So many of us slice years off our lives by resisting change. The only things mom has resisted (graciously, of course) are poor grammar & coarse behavior.

   If there is a secret to her longevity other than genes it has been that supreme graciousness. Like the first tenet of the famous prayer, she has shown "the grace to accept things [she] cannot change."

   This beautiful trait has been a constant for Molly Chapman for 105 years. The photographs suggest it. Her life proves it. 

-Erie Chapman

Mom inverness aug 20

 

 

12 responses to “Days 237-241 – 105 Years of Grace”

  1. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    This is absolutely the most beautiful tribute to you mom, Erie. I hope you will share it with her. However, I am sure she is aware of the abundant love that you both share. I hope you have her genes for longevity but surely you have inherited her grace. I imagine that at the miraculous age of 105 all insignificant concerns have fallen away and the one thing that matters continues burn brightly; her love.
    Happy birthday, Molly!

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  2. Terry Chapman Avatar
    Terry Chapman

    So well written, Chip! Your love from your Mom and for your Mom, says volumes about your family–all of you. I always knew, when I visited Toledo, OH, and you and your family, we would be well received, and that Aunt Molly would ask me somewhat pointedly, “Terry, what have you been doing?”; then listen intently to my wandering replies, hah!
    And always she thought to meet my need to play golf at Inverness Country Club, even when scheduling wasn’t easy. When she and I played as a twosome,I can vividly recall that she was encouraging as I thrashed my way through the hallowed golf holes; yes, gracefully steering me to a wonderful lunch, in the fabled clubhouse, overlooking the 18th green. Yes–graceful!!

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  3. Teresa Reynolds Avatar
    Teresa Reynolds

    Every mother’s Joy would be to have a son reflect upon her life in such a beautiful way. I hope someone reads this post to her. Happy birthday!

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  4. Lynn Avatar
    Lynn

    This is so beautiful, Erie! You drew me in with these loving, beautiful words, and I soaked in the rest, fully in my heart! “If she were a flower, she would be a gardenia. If a piano concerto, Rachmaninoff’s 2nd.
    Were she a bird, she would be among the rarest: an Indigo Bunting. If a soap, sandlewood. As a mother, she is one word: grace.”

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  5. erie chapman Avatar
    erie chapman

    Thank you so much, Lynn. VERY grateful to you for your sensitivity to the language of this essay.

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  6. erie chapman Avatar
    erie chapman

    That would be wonderful, Teresa. Thank you for your comment and for suggesting this.

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  7. erie chapman Avatar
    erie chapman

    Thank you so much for your beautiful comment and fond recollection, Terry. Your gratitude & sensitivity as well as your own writing are so appreciated.

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  8. erie chapman Avatar
    erie chapman

    Thanks so much, Liz. Yes, hope one of my sisters can share it with her. Thank you for honoring this tribute with your kinds words and for the way you have always celebrated my mom. YOU have done the same for your mom and other members of your family.

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  9. sbeng Avatar
    sbeng

    Excellent writing about your mum Erie. She surely have had an interesting life. Happy Birthday Molly-105 years now and wishes for many more to come. The Lord has surely blessed you and your loving family.

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  10. Jolyon Avatar
    Jolyon

    Happy Belated Birthday!!!
    Thank you Erie for sharing your mom’s life with us all.

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  11. Todd Meador Avatar
    Todd Meador

    Wow! Erie, this is beautiful!
    I became lost in the words finding myself drifting off to discover what her life was like and the experiences she had. In the end, you tied it together so gracefully. Maybe as she might have done as a writer.

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