Vincent_van_Gogh_-_Self-Portrait_-_Google_Art_Project_1887   Would you have wanted to have dinner with Vincent Van Gogh? Probably. Would you want to have dinner with him three nights a week every week for a year. Not if you knew his personality.

   The genius had notorious mood swings, was prone to sudden anger & depression & saw the world in ways we love now in his pictures but seemed as crazy as did he to the late 19th century French society he occupied. 

   The 85/15 rule works like this. If Van Gogh generates genius work 15% of the time can we put up with the 85% of the time he is intolerable?

   You & I see it everyday in healthcare. The surgeon that is a genius at doing rare surgeries also loses his temper & throws instruments at any nurse that hands them the wrong one. You have got to be spectacular to get away with that kind of behavior in today's world.

   Steve Jobs is a perfect example of the 85/15 rule. Jobs' genius literally changed the world. Apple is the richest company on earth and Apple products are used by billions. It all started, and was built, from the mind of a single individual. Yet, by all accounts, Jobs was incredibly difficult to work with. 

   Do you love your spouse or your friend enough to put up with whatever percent of his or her behavior you cannot stand? That is relationship's ultimate question based a strange equation that mixes logic with something that has no logic: Love.

-Erie Chapman

-Vincent Van Gogh, Self Portrait (1887)

3 responses to “Days 307-311 – The 85/15 Rule”

  1. Stephen Pariser Avatar
    Stephen Pariser

    Well said. Van Gogh had multiple medical issues.Meisel torment and his genius are reflected in his work.when Theo experienced financial difficulties and could not provide as well for Vincent, his life took one more sad turn.
    Don McLean’s “Vincent,” is a a haunting remembrance of Van Gogh..
    Erie, your message is a wonderful reminder that we all are imperfect.
    Thank you.

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  2. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    This is thought provoking reflection Erie and one in which I’ve been wrestling with all this week. The compassion response generated from readers here as well as on FB is inspired. Stephen’s comment above resonates, as well as the profoundly touching comment from the gentleman whose wife suffers from Alzheimer’s. What a difficult journey informed by a steadfast love.
    In the healthcare arena, I can not fathom how aberrant behavior as described would be tolerated but perhaps that is naïve on my part? It seems that tolerating abusive behavior is not aligned with honoring human dignity.
    In relationships with friends/loved ones it is even more challenging, yet that is where my compassion kicks in. But a question keeps surfacing in my mind, is there another way? Can we choose another way, a different pattern of relating… or do we forgive 70×70…

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  3. Jolyon Avatar
    Jolyon

    I was recruited by Apple in the early 2000’s to join their team after working in another field for twenty years. This was at a time when most people had written them off as a failing company. But Steve Jobs was back and he had a vision and focus for the company and by extension, us. I shared that focus. I knew what I was getting into. I took a pay cut because I wanted Apple to grow and share the future with others. It happened. Time occurred. Ron Johnson left the company. Then Steve Jobs left his body. Changes happened since Apple was a financial success. It became like Starbucks. I was very happy being part of the foundation for regrowth, but did not fit in with those that liked hanging out at the bar. With someone like Steve Jobs you know (though I did not meet him) that the drive to excellence creates frustrations with oneself. Being part of that foundation only brings back good memories.

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