Clock without hands[Reposted]

   Newscasters offering their epitaphs on 2020 also reference the famous who have left us. One's final words always intrigue. Ever since I was a kid I have often asked others what they would like their final words to be.   

  "As she lay dying, my mother spoke four words that changed my life," Harold Poneman shared with me forty years ago. Dr. Poneman was not only Medical Director at the first hospital I led but became a great friend. 

   "She said, 'What fools we are,'" he laughed. "She was right, don't you think?" 

   Caregivers, particularly in hospices, are often witnesses to final utterances & could write books about what they have heard. 

   But, executioners are witnesses as well because of the ritual invitation to prisoners to offer their last words. Revolutionary War hero Nathan Hale used his final breaths to deliver a legendary speech to his British captors, "I only regret that I have but one life to give for my country." 

    Michelangelo ended his life with four words, "I am still learning." Steve Jobs engaged just two, "Oh Wow." (repeated three times.) And so did Goethe, "More light."

   On his deathbed, Comedian W.C. Fields was asked why he was reading the Bible. "I'm looking for loopholes," he joked. 

   Ms. Poneman's wisdom rings in my ears when I find myself conjuring my own last words. Why would anyone care?  Nevertheless, I dreamt up my own: "I went after too much & got it." 

   I like my wife's answer better. "Thank you," she said. I would just say "thank you" because I have had so much. 

-Erie Chapman

Photograph, "Clock Without Hands" by Erie, 2015

2 responses to “Days 361-365 Last Words”

  1. Terry Chapman Avatar
    Terry Chapman

    Another powerful post which asks us to write our own 4 word epitaph. Mine would read, “Love; live fully, now!” So many persons seem to live as though it were a rehearsal of their real life that they only imagine! Yes, challenges and pain have been a part of mine and everyone’s existence, but focus always on creating new life experiences for yourself and all around you. Breathe deeply; dream big dreams; then move toward them. Surprises await all of us through our entire lifetime. Accept this as truth and grab some sunshine as you face each new day with a smile, using whatever energies and inspiration you have, and head toward a brighter tomorrow!

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  2. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    I recall my father saying to me, “It’s interesting, isn’t it; the dying? and that comment open up a beautiful dialogue between us. Another night he said, This will probably be the last little conversation we have… it was such a sacred time, I slept on the floor in his room as I did not want to miss a moment of being with him.
    You remind us of the preciousness and fleeting nature of life here on this earthly realm, Erie, which I appreciate because most days we avoid thinking of death. Yet, when we live in open awareness, we are less likely to take anyone/thing for granted and perhaps, helps us to cultivate a more open and forgiving heart, more wonder, gratitude and love for ourselves/others, our imperfections and glory.

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