After each of my children graduated high school as both valedictorians & Student Body Presidents a friend said, "You must be so proud." Of course, I was.

   But another friend said, "Maybe the better word is grateful."

   He's right. Tethered to the earth we struggle to express ourselves with the best words we can find.

   What happens to your energy when you speak gratitude instead of pride? What happens when you hear a doctor or nurse say they are proud one of their patients was cured rather then grateful for a good outcome? 

   We stack wood for our fireplace. Why do we fly the flag? 

   We are encouraged to say we are "proud of our country," or "proud of our hospital" or "proud of our team."

   Even the Bible cautions that "Pride goeth before a fall." So why not simply express gratitude?  Why trumpet a pride that could lead to arrogance? "We are the greatest," some of our leaders shout. Does this generate condescension towards non-Americans?    

   Many Patriots fans have already said, "I am proud of my team." But what did they do beyond shouting from the couch?    

   It is twenty-seven years since my friend challenged me to express gratitude instead of pride. That one comment changed my life – & hopefully yours.  

-Erie Chapman

Photograph by Erie