ANNE BOYER     On a day when the sky is the blue you want it to be & the air is fresher than new lilacs. In a late morning when anyone passionate about life would be rolling on the greening earth & shouting praises to a kind sun.

   Amid a spring so precious it ignites reflections on how many are left I come inside to write you about what matters most: how you spend your life caring for the ones that cannot go outside. The ones Disease holds hostage in hospitals.

   These are the fellow humans who seek your radical loving care.

   One of these, Anne Boyer, wrote a life changing article for The New Yorker (excerpt at left, April 15th edition). I read one paragraph & could not stop.

   It is more than an article about cancer. Ms. Boyer devotes her prodigious eloquence to describing illness universal. How the incessant florescence of its liminal state burns our eyes. How that netherworld is laced with longing. The familiar ground we knew in the mirror has been earthquaked into rubble we do not recognize.

   The severity of her disease means the severing of her breasts. Her plight evokes the stories of newly legless soldiers whose nerves feel limbs their eyes cannot see. Like them, Ms. Boyer is left with prosthetics.   

   This is a story of illness both chronic & acute. A tale embedded in the bodies of so many of the people in crisis for whom you care each day. The people we call patients.

   I read Anne's story amid health's arrogance & felt the pull of darker days I've spent on the other side of Wellbeing's fragile wall. Radical Loving Care's hymnal holds two songs. One thrills with notes of celebration. The other is limned with lyrics of longing.

   You know both songs by heart. 

-Erie Chapman

4 responses to “Days 118-122 – Anne Boyer Describes Why What You Do Matters Most”

  1. Teresa Reynolds Avatar
    Teresa Reynolds

    This is so important.

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  2. Liz Avatar
    Liz

    Erie, what touches me to the core is the depth of your compassion and what comes to mind is H. Nouwen’s wisdom that we are all wounded healers one to another. Thank you for giving voice to the suffering that accompanies illness; to the suffering that is part of our human experience.

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  3. Terry Chapman Avatar
    Terry Chapman

    “You know both songs by heart” is a marvelously evocative piece of writing, Chip!
    Yes I do know both songs quite well, having suffered a Depression back in 2014 which left me dependent for a while on my dear wife and medical staffs.
    How hard it is to be dependent in any serious manner for however short a time. In my case, I was healed and back to my old self in about 3 months. I have had an increased gratefulness for my overall well being ever since that challenging illness.
    Keep this in mind as you navigate your days, months, and years to come! We probably have only this one opportunity to live grateful, helpful, and loving lives on planet Earth. Who knows what tiny gestures we make to others, may indeed help them live better lives, filled with hope and a smile, if only for a little while?

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  4. Erie Chapman Foundation Avatar

    This is an incredibly kind comment, Liz. Yes, perhaps those who are in touch with suffering need to help as many caregivers as possible to recommit to help the vulnerable

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